Causes
For the person who has everything, why not try this.
On Monday visitors arriving were telling me that there was a police car outside, as long as they weren't in here I wasn't worried. Then today the elderly lady from next door phoned up to tell us about the funeral arrangements. I rushed round and after a long hug heard her sad news, she had found her husband dead in bed on Monday morning. She said what I was thinking ' What a lovely way to go, in his sleep.' Her loss is immense though, and her constant replaying of her movements Monday morning, switching the phone off upstairs so as not to disturb him, doing all the housework and ironing whilst he 'slept in', and then finally going up to wake him with a cup of tea and toast, and finding that he was not sleeping but had gone for ever without her saying goodbye, gives me an insight into how her mind is constantly examining her last moments with him. I invited her round, but now comes the real arrow to her heart, she is waiting for a call from the coroner, they are doing a post mortem today. This man had been ill for years, cancer, asbestosis and a heart attack a few months ago, but they have to cut him open. Not just that but the police were there for a couple of hours questioning her, it all seems really unfair.
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(21.12.05 14:25) The poor thing. I hope she's okay - maybe take her something around to eat and make sure she's looking after herself for a while? |
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(21.12.05 14:27) Queeneroo - Her daughter is there now, but she's coming here tomorrow for lunch. |
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(21.12.05 14:42) Oh, the poor woman ... that's so sad. |
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(21.12.05 14:45) so sad, but very beautifully put, MM, made me have a wee ponder. |
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(21.12.05 16:10) Pog & Gift of the Gab - It made me think so I'm going to make sure that every night, before I go to sleep, I give Hubby a quick cuddle and kiss.... just in case. |
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(21.12.05 16:33) Not that I want to sound heartless - hope I don't - but if he had asbestosis he has to, by law, have a post mortem. It is because there is automatic compensation (I believe) from the government (again I believe) for anyone who died of asbestosis. I know this to my cost because I once signed a crem form for a man who died of asbestosis and then had the coroner on the phone having conniptions and getting into a dreadful state. It was 2 hours before the poor guys funeral and if he had been cremated there would have been hell to pay. Shame about the police though - hopefully they spent most of the time making her a cup of tea and helping her ring the doctor, and coroner etc etc. |
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(21.12.05 17:04) geepeemum - Not heartless, informative! I imagine the cause of death will be MI, is that affected by asbestosis? |
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(22.12.05 16:02) Oh poor soul, my heart goes out to her. That's why you should never go to sleep on an argument! |
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(1.1.06 19:11) Sorry for delay!! Not in itself but I'm fairly sure that you just get compensation if you have evidence of asbestosis regardless of the actual cause of death - if you have ever had symptoms of chest problems. I think so anyway. I know she'd ratherhave her husband than compenasation but at least I hope she gets what's due to her.... Happy New Year. |